Wedding Gift Registries Etiquette

It is your wedding and your wedding gift registry. But still, there are some etiquette, some rules, you are supposed to follow while using these gift registries. Here are some of the important ones.

Never Advertise on Wedding Invitation: There is something funny about the Indian wedding invitations. Wedding invitations usually carry a silent obligation to buy a gift, but never explicitly mentioned. You may have noticed tiny notes such as “No presents please” or “Presents in blessing only” in invitations. These are perfect examples of such hidden messages. It may appear at first that the couple is not expecting any gifts; but in reality, these messages are there to remind you about gifts.

Similarly, once your gift registry is setup, it might appear demanding to ‘cleverly’ bring up the message on to your wedding invitation. But experts day, you are not even supposed to mention ‘no gifts, please’ on the wedding invitation! So, quite simply, get rid of the idea of talking about it on your invitation. Instead, rely on the ‘word of mouth’ act to spread the word. Ask your relatives, close friends etc. to help you out with spreading the word about this gift registry. Use social media websites to let your friends know about it. Whatever you do, never mention it on your wedding card.

Plan in Advance: When to prepare these wedding gift registries is another question that looms around you. The answer is, as early as possible! Don’t wait until the month of your wedding to prepare and publish the gift registry. Get it done as early as possible, as spreading the word about gift registry might not turn out to be as smooth as you expected.

Remember the Traditions: Another thing you need to remember is never to force anyone to follow gift registries: not your family, not your friends, just no one. Let all the guests know about the wedding gift registry you have prepared and let them choose the sides. Some people may not welcome the idea of gift registries, especially your relatives who root for traditions and customs. Again, do not force them.

Prepare an Exhaustive Registry: When it comes to the number of gifts in the wish list, they say, the more, the better. You might think adding more gifts to the registry will only help you to picture you as a ‘greedy’ couple, but you are actually helping the guests by adding more items to the list. More items in the list mean more options for the guests. You might already be thinking about a gift registry with all the modern home décor stuff and camping gears, but, add some traditional gifts too because there are people who love the idea of traditional gifting.

Blend Items: A good gifting registry will be a perfect blend of price and type of gifts. The gift registry should not be some list, just for your rich uncle Rishi! Make the list in such a way that every guest is able to find something good and affordable. You may also include an option to gift cash. But yes, adding personal items to the gift registry is not desirable because the gift registry not for the bride or for the groom, it is for the couple.

Do not expect every item in the wish list to be in among the bundle of wedding gifts you receive. The wedding gift registry is just a suggestion for the guests. They might buy something else for you, which they think you might like. Who knows, it might be a huge surprise waiting for you! Finally, don’t forget send a thank-you note for the giver, expressing your appreciation and gratitude. In this case too, the sooner, the better. Give yourself a one-month window to start sending thank you notes.